Relationships are more interesting when the people involved can be themselves. You shouldn’t have to be all cautious with your partner, because you feel they might not understand you. There’s nothing better than the feeling of being truly loved, appreciated and understood by your partner. It is until you truly know and understand your partner, that you can build a strong relationship.
Couples who can genuinely be themselves will be able to fully understand and connect with each other. If you can’t always be yourself around your partner, you cannot build a truly authentic and strong relationship. However, if you’re willing to be vulnerable, and go the extra mile, you and your partner can work together to build a deep, strong and long lasting relationship. Here are some questions you can ask each other in a relationship, to build a stronger bond between you two.
1. What are the things you love about me, and the things you want me to improve on?
When you ask this question, it makes the other person feel loved and valuable with their unique characters and qualities. It also makes them feel you care so much about them that you want to keep improving to do better. No human being is perfect, so there will always be things to improve on. Let your partner feel that they can be completely open to you without being judged.
2. What can I do to help deepen your trust in me?
Trust is very critical in a relationship, and you asking this question means you want to be trusted and you’re willing to do anything to make that happen. Asking this question helps to break the habit of holding back and holding on to past hurts. Even if you’ve broken their trust in the past, it gives them a sense of assurance that you’re willing to build back the trust.
3. Do you feel left out of our relationship in any way?
Building a strong relationship does not happen overnight, it entails you and your partner knowing each other deeply. By asking your partner this question, you open the door for them to be themselves truly in the relationship. It helps them to tell you areas of their lives they have been too shy to talk about, or feelings they haven’t been expressing.
4. What is your worst memory?
Everyone has bad memories they don’t want to share with others. But if your partner trusts you enough, they should be able to open it up to you. Asking them about it can give them room to share it, and it brings you two closer. Knowing their worst memories help you to be supportive and understand where they still have trauma and pain.
5. What do you find it difficult to open to me about?
It’s not always easy to open up about some things that are painful. You shouldn’t push your partner to tell you their darkest secrets if they don’t feel comfortable talking about it. But asking what it is can start a conversation and probably make them feel more safe to discuss them later. This question opens up communications and opportunity for the other person to open up a part of their life that they may never share with anyone else.
6. What kind of person do you want to become, and how can I help?
Being part of a relationship means learning to grow and change with your partner, and helping each other to become the best version of yourselves. By knowing who your partner wants to become, it becomes easier for you to help and support them in their quest. Your relationship becomes stronger when each of you know that the other will support them in their growth and development.
7. What do you value most in our relationship, and why?
Asking your partner what they value most about your relationship can give you a lot of insight. It is possible you both do not value the same things even though you’re on the same page in the relationship. What you value in the relationship serves as a means of securing your commitment to each other when you feel disconnected at any time.