People with positive self-worth are open to more opportunities and improvement, they don’t rely on external reinforcements to feel good about themselves. They experience more happiness and delight in life, and go about life knowing they are valuable. You don’t know what opportunities you’re missing out on when you don’t have a good self-esteem. You walk through life feeling nobody needs you, or what you have to offer.
Low self-esteem makes it difficult to accept responsibility and constructive critique. It hinders you from having fulfilling experiences in life, opportunities and taking on new challenges. It can also affect important relationships. Low self-esteem affects your emotions, thoughts and behaviors. It can occur as a result of disapproval from people we value, putting your self-worth in circumstances beyond your control, or mental disorders.
Low self-esteem robs you of being who you’re meant to be. You will always seek approval from people that don’t even matter, when you have no or low self-esteem. However, there are things you can do to help you overcome it, and be the person you’re meant to be.
1. Become your own best friend
You’re unique and special in your own way, if you don’t see that, no one else will. Spend time alone with yourself, take time to know yourself, as it will help you see how special you are and you’ll get to appreciate yourself more. You can make a list of your strengths and past achievements to remind yourself of your victories, and revisit them whenever you need to feel better about yourself. When you love and value yourself, it becomes easier for others to value you.
2. Accept where you need change
We all have faults and weaknesses in one area or the other, but if you don’t acknowledge where you need change, it can keep you stuck in low self-esteem. Instead, deliberately choose to know where you need change and put effort to improve it. You should also be aware when you’re too critical of yourself, so you don’t switch to negative emotions.
3. Surround yourself with good people
Low self-esteem often starts early in life at the hands of disapproving authority figures. For instance, a child that is always compared to others, or constantly told that he or she doesn’t measure up, will grow to have low self-esteem. They’ll always feel they’re not good enough and can never be. So, to help you build back your confidence and self-esteem, you should surround yourself with positive people, who acknowledge your positive attributes, and correct you in a positive way.
4. Don’t compare yourself to others
Comparisons only lead to negative self-image, which leads to low self-esteem, that can ruin your physical and mental health, work and relationships. It is a good thing to want to be like successful people ahead of you, but outright comparison is dangerous to your self-esteem. You are unique in your own way, and you can never be someone else. The earlier you accept you for who you are, the better and healthier for your self-esteem.
5. Take care of yourself
Do things that make you feel better about yourself. It can be as simple as having your bath, brushing your hair, wearing clean and nice clothes, eating good food, living in a comfortable place. All these and many more helps to improve your mood, and how you feel about yourself.
6. Avoid negative affirmations
People will always say mean things about you or around you, it is up to you not to accept it. Replace them with positive affirmations, repeat to yourself positive words that you want to believe. It helps you to get back on track about yourself. Studies have also shown that it helps to reduce stress and depression.
7. Help others
Volunteering and helping others that are less privileged helps you feel good, knowing that you can be of help to others. It helps you to be proud of yourself, and this increases your self worth, and self-esteem in the process.