It won’t always work out. Some relationships will end in a breakup. It is better to be single than to be in an abusive relationship or be hooked with an unfaithful partner or worst still, a jealous partner. Think about it, a jealous or insecure partner could get you killed. An unfaithful partner would expose you to life-threatening sexual diseases. It is always good to know when you should allow the other person to go.
I know it is painful when a breakup happens. It will look like your world is falling apart. The person you planned to spend the rest of your life with has gone with another person. The future looks bleak, you are so unsure if you are ever going to fall in love with another person again. Broken hearts are not easily mended. Heartbreak is one of the hardest things to overcome. It might not be easy but it is possible to overcome it and that is why we are writing this; to show you how you can overcome a heartbreak if it happens.
Feel your Grief.
Feel the grief, cry if it would help your recovery process. Don’t pretend nothing happened. Pretense won’t heal you. It makes it look like you are healing but you would be dying within you. Feel free to cry. Don’t do ‘hard guy’ when you are sinking inside.
Rise Up and Chase Your Passion.
It time to refocus, channel your energy into other things. What do you love doing? What is that thing you have always wanted to do? Get into it. Register for that online course. Learn a new skill. Do things that would keep from thinking about what has happened. If possible, travel to a new place. Explore a new environment. A new place breathes new memory.
Don’t try to reach out to your Ex
Let the sleeping dog lie. Don’t be like the dog that goes back to its vomit. I know it is hard but, you will be hurting yourself more if you try to reach out to your ex.
I know you would be aching to hear from him/her. You want to hear that it’s just a joke, I am coming back to you but the door has been closed, let it remain closed.
Don’t Rush Into Another Relationship
Take time to heal before you go into another relationship. Wounded people hurt others. Ensure that your wound has been healed before you go into another relationship. You would be expecting the new partner to fulfill a role they may not be ready for; healing your wounds. Most likely, you want them to heal the pain the other person caused.
Be healed before you jump into a new relationship, it would help your health.
Spend Time with Friends and Family. Spend most of your ‘grieving time with those who love you with no-string-attached. Your family and close relatives are the best to spend time with if you know you can’t handle the grief alone. Draw energy from people who love you sincerely, people who care about your well-being.
Finally, I would end by saying this, after all, has been said and done, when you have been healed from the hurt. Don’t forget to give love another try.